I was reading over some notes that I had previously posted up on facebook, and I encountered this particular one. Quite a few people liked it.. and it relates to someone which most of you would know by now if you have been a regular reader of this blog.. anyways, as I read it, I just realised how depressed I was at the time. But like I've said, I think that bad experiences bring valuable lessons for my future because it will always remind me to be more cautious in all choices that I make in life.

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Here is the note:

♫♪ Aku yang lemah tanpamu

Aku yang rentan karena

cinta yang tlah hilang darimu

yang mampu menyanjungku .

kan kujadikan kau kenangan

Yang terindah dalam hidupku ♥

Namun takkan mudah bagiku

Meninggalkan jejak hidupku

Yang telah terukir abadi

Sebagai kenangan yang terindah ◦ ◦ ◦ ◦

▪▪▪▪► If you understand indonesian, then good for you . .

If you dont understand english, then i am sorry. .

This is one of my fav- depressing love songs, which currently relates to how i feel now :(

Youre the only one I loved but it only turned to hatred. and now you're the only one I wish to not forget.

I once loved this guy;

He once loved me;

But I guess we both learnt, that we are never meant to be. [its not fate].

It's going to be difficult, to let you go;

But I must; because keeping this special rasa sayang for him,

Is only making me suffer each night. And so,

- To him - I will miss every part of you ,certainly with no doubt.

But the love u left me with, has caused so much pain.

It’s true, I learnt a lot from you; so much I have gained.

To learn to appreciate and value the one's who love you most;

It will always stay in my heart, forever I suppose;

This heart is now crying out, 'you are the one, who i chose.

I hope my last teardrop, will ever only be tonight.

.Because I have decided, that its time im letting you go,

.Biyarlah waktu menjawab.

.Jika kita memang berjodoh,

.Aku percaya kalo kita akan ketemu lagi di masa depan.

.Kalau tidak; ku'berharap kau s'lalu ingat;

.bahwa kau adalah kenangan

.Yang terindah dalam hidupku .

.Walalupun keputusan ini tak'kan mudah bagiku ,

Untuk meninggalkan semua rasa sayangku kepada'mu. '

▪▫▪  Merry

It's true how feelings change, but memories don't. Sure, I don't love him anymore because of the pain that he has brought in my life back then... But I still remember each and every word that he told me, all the lies that he said to my face, and how he waited and used my weak point for the right moment to break up with me. But it's the past and so I should let it go. Now whenever I see him on FB, how he is continuing to struggle through his own personal love life with different girls.. makes me wonder how I was even attracted to that kind of guy. But I pity him because someone should tell him that there are more important goals in his life besides finding a girlfriend..poor guy.. *sigh*.

Anyways, that is the past, and there's nothing I can do to go back and change it. I can only learn from my mistakes and to be better in the future.

All boyfriends should take note of this:

1.     Hug her from behind. (and put your chin on her shoulder) <3

2.     Grab her hand when you guys walk next to each other.

3.     When you’re standing near her, wrap your arms around her waist.

4.     Kiss her forehead (it means that you are faithful and full of trust)

5.     Cuddle/hug her. But don’t be gangly or awkward!

6.     Don’t force her to do ANYTHING. No, means no.

7.     Don’t ever swear or make insults at her when you both fight. (your harsh words come from your heart, and these words will stay in her memory forever.)

8.     If there is ever something that you need to confess to her... then just tell her. It’s better to tell her sooner than later.

9.     Defend her when others do against her, but advise her if she was in fault.

10.  Give her positive compliments (that come from your real heart).

11.  If you give her exaggerated compliments, she will eventually sense your lies.

12.  Having other female friends is okay, but if she gets jealous, don’t try to hide it by giving excuses. Just tell her that you are friends and nothing more, otherwise she will lose trust in you and this will only create a fight.

13.  When you’re at a special occasion with her, and there are family and friends, be polite. Kissing or flirting all over each other is inappropriate, and will create a negative atmosphere.

14.  Say I love you at the right moment.... and MEAN IT!

15.  Brushing the hair out of her eyes is really cute

16.  Comfort her when she cries, and give her your thoughts as best as you can. (she’ll appreciate  that you care for her sincerely.) and girls usually prefer to cry her heart out to a guy who not only listens, but also will say something comforting.

17.  Always stay faithful and respectful to her.

18.  Respect the other people who she loves in her life.

19.  Love does not equal sex. And sex does not equal love.

20.  Love her with all your heart

This is just one of my creations :) Of course, not all guys have to do EVERYTHING on this list to make their girlfriend's heart melt, because, there are so many other cute things that a guy could do. The most important key I think.. is that they show their ability to prove that their love, the sense of care, and the loyalty for the girl they love, is true :) So it is the guy's choice in how he chooses to express his true feelings <3 hehe, but the girl will usually judge not the way he expresses it, but the amount of EFFORT they put in whilst doing it (^.^)