Relationships; love; our soul mate?

I came across this really touching quote by Tim Keller which depicts what we should look for in a soul mate. Most of the times we are trapped in by good-looks and get hasty to get into a relationship with the person whom we desire to be with so greatly... But sometimes and unfortunately things go wrong and their real personality is revealed along the way, ending up with arguments and clashes. This quote however, based on the bible, tells how that friendship should be the key element before a steady and successful relationship and it's true! Think about it. When we are friends with a person and we have so much in common and we accept one another's personality, then our friendship will last a life time, correct? How much more beautiful if that true friendship blossoms into true love?  Have a read of this beautiful quote:

‘Suppose you have a very good friend of the opposite sex with whom you share common commitments and projects which excite you both far more than others. You trust their wisdom and share many intimacies without fear. They understand you well and give you great advice. But you think they don’t attract you romantically. Think carefully. The bible says our longterm relationships should be with those who are more than our best friend, not less. Our culture encourages us to screen first for romantic appeal and see friendship as a secondary benefit. The bible encourages us to think the other way round. Look for someone who understands you better than you do yourself and who makes you a better person. And then explore whether that friendship could become a romance or more. It can be surprising how the holy spirit can then take and develop your feelings for one another, when built on the foundation of friendship’.

— Tim Keller


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